Saturday, September 29, 2012


No no it is not me who is hiding.

I need to thank all of you who left kind comments for me on my last post.   I appreciate all of them and all of you and I think I am one lucky gal to have nice folks like you guys who follow me here and you are so kind to me always.   I thank all of you who shared personal experiences with me...for your emails.  I thank you with all my heart. Seriously.

Do you guys allow anonymous comments on your blogs?  I used to but I blocked it a few months ago because I kept getting some nasty ones and really I don't need that. Nobody does.  I am not talking about people who just disagree with what the blogger discusses on their posts..that is OK...but about people who are just trying to be mean just because they can and they are hiding behind a computer.  I'd get people writing to me about my races..telling me they thought it was not true I dry heave all the time and that I was using this as an "excuse" for my slower times.  Yes because it is what we all want to write about...puking during our races...right.... I got the occasional "you don't look like a runner, you are too tall." BS comment as well and my personal favorite: comments about how poor my English grammar is.....guess they missed the FRENCH part of my profile description.

I also think some people who know me personally in my real life come here to read but don't tell me they do - and that is OK I guess since  the blog is public - but  comment under anonymous and not in a nice way.  That I don't like.  It is creepy also.  Bill would be the first to say that some of my in-laws are hmm..well I don't have a nice word to describe them...let's just say they have issues.  Let me give you an boys are 8 and 6 1/2 yrs old.  My mother in law has never seen Jonathan who is the youngest and the last time she saw Will he was 11 months old.  This is by her choice.  Not ours.  And here's the best part: we have no clue why.  We tried to find out over the years.  There was no big fight. Nothing.  So see....issues.  I do still see the anonymous comments via emails like I see all the spam ones...(I get a ton of those as well...all about meds....)

I just don't get why people comment under anonymous...and cannot own what they have to say.  Why hide like this?

So to you condescending anonymous who commented today and who "likes me very much"...really...if you want to comment here you will have to reveal yourself if you want to keep jugging me. 

Don't worry I will not write every day about my family situation.  I shared it because well this is my blog and I don't want to pretend like everything is great because it is not.  I wrote only about how I feel about it.  This is not Bill's blog or a family blog. 


10 miles solo today.  Last long run before Long Beach.
It went OK.  I lost a lot of salt though and I did take 3 salt tablets.  (Still an oven over here)
I am not sure what to do about this. 
1. Should I take more tablets?
2. Did I get a crusty face because I took the tablets?

I did not get the chills like I sometimes do when I DON'T take salt so that is a +.

I felt the pain in my groin at around mile 6.  It is not sharp but it is still there...
This week I was not good at doing my PT program that I now do at home.

I am happy that I was able to get two 10 miler before Long Beach, it will help me mentally I am sure.  I think that because I am still not pain free...I will have to take some walking breaks during the half marathon.  It does help a little just like the PT said.  What is not good is to hurts a lot to start again.

Jonathan had his 3rd soccer game today.  I do love going to the games.  So fun to see a field full of little kids being active..AYSO is a fantastic program, I highly recommend it.

Check out the double fists and the tongue sticking out!!!


Boston Bound Brunette said...

Your boys are so cute! I have never received any mean or anonymous comments. It could be due to the fact that my blog is not very popular or I am too boring for them :) I think it is weird that people actually take the time to say mean things to others or hide behind their own opinions. Why bother??? I am puzzled as to why your in laws have not seen those boys?? How could they resist those cuties??

Elle said...

I havne't had any mean comments but both my blogs get a ton of Anonymous comments that have links on them so I have moderated my comments right from the beginning.

We have family crud too. It is a pita but we have exorcised some toxic family relationships and that has lessened the stress load considerably.

I love your pictures today! And hope you continue to do well with your training. I have no advice about the salt.. I got salt depleted during my half in May and it was an awful recovery.

BabyWeightMyFatAss said...

I don't allow anonymous comments because well people need to own their shit imo. Though one of the best things here though was when The Chicago Tribune started to use Facebook as a way for people to comment on a story. Now we know Dick P from Lansing is a racist, kwim?

Oh and my MIL never met either one of my girls and that was by our choice.

J. L. said...

Ok, that's funny. I think you totally look like a runner! An anonymous person that says otherwise is not only a hider, but a dumba$$ as well :-) I think that's the crazy thing about a spouse losing their goes on...all the soccer games, the school parties, plans that were made long before the virtual unemployment "line." But it also goes in slow motion. And grocery shopping isn't nearly as fun :-) Yay for cute pictures at the soccer field.

Yo Momma Runs said...

My face is always crusty (even after short runs), and I don't take the salt tablets.

XLMIC said...

Yay for 10! And boo on anonymouses!

Lisa said...

Yeah, annonymity is both the biggest challenge and thrill for people & computers. They're cowards. Period.

I feel like salt tabs are a tricky thing, where you know for sure when you haven't taken them (i.e. depleted, dizzy, etc) but you don't necessarily get the validation when you do take them. I have read that you can take too many and that can wreak havoc on your system.

Black Knight said...

Beautiful pictures of your boys.
I would like to speak english like you!
Hidden by the anonymity the sheep become lions.
Glad for your 10 m and sorry for the pain in the groin, take care.

Ilsa said...

Why did I post as anonymous? Because it was possible to do so. You chose to write about your life and post your photos and your name and whereabouts, and I chose not to. But I still have an opinion that I thought you might be interested in. Are you happier with the "black knight" or xlmic name, or my made-up name?
My comment was not mean, and you know it. Your readers don't know it because you erased it. That is OK, I wrote it for you, not for your readers. I do like you, I regularly read your blog, but I comment only when I have something to say, like when you were asking about what to do because your posted pictures took too much memory. Or this time. You got plenty of comments that you like and that meant something to you, so I did not feel a need to write another one of the same sort - which is not my style anyway. Also, you do not know me, no need to speculate who of your in-laws could it be.
You can dismiss my rare comments or not, erase them or not, I write when I feel it could be useful or at least interesting. Look, I was just really surprised by the tone and words of your post and your reactions. Besides what I already wrote in my last comment that was erased, I was also surprised that you preferred your husband would have announced the news in the absence of children - sounded like another accusation to me. In my opinion, your children are big enough to process things like that, without news being sanitized first,and if you are trying to hide or not, getting prepared first how to tell them or not - they can feel how you are processing things. But people are different, and in this aspect of what and how to tell difficult things to children even you and your husband are different. I personally am more interested in different opinions...
I am keeping my fingers crossed for you and your family. Sincerely. Be strong.

Caroline said...

xlmic, Marjorie: I know her personnaly..if you read my posts you know this..there's even a picture of the 2 of us on a HTC post.

Same for the black knight, Stefano, if you read my posts you would know I also know him I wear the shirt he sent me all the time..even on my header picture here

Caroline said...

My kids did not need to see their mother crying and in shock and they ARE very young and they need to feel that everything will be ok.

on your other comment you said my husband DERSERVE a month of break..well yes we all do...but the thing is we have responsabilities...and a month of break is just not what comes on the top of the list right now.
ok I am done with this..

Ilsa said...

So what are you saying, it is allowed to comment only to those who you know, and to those that you like their comments?

Your children will FEEL that everything will be ok only if you really do feel that. And not if you are hiding tears and emotions. Don't underestimate them.

I am done with this, as well. And Caroline, everything WILL be ok.

Teamarcia said...

Your boys are so gorgeous!
Sorry you're getting mean comments. Some people need of get a life, including your MIL. Sad.

Shannon said...

Great job on the 10 miler. I thought the blogging world was all about connecting and being supportive-I guess the mean commenters didn't get that memo! :)


Lydia - Running Wild(er) said...

I love your blog and have been following for months! I have had a similar issue and actually posted about it today. People are so miserable sometimes. Don't let the haters get to you!

Emz said...

Holy. Crap.


Emz said...

...stupid iPhone.

Ok. Awesome job on the 10. And your boys. Love. Them.
Blogging is hard. It is. It opens us wide open to comments, judgements & thoughts of others. I thought I had thick skin....until I started blogging.
There will always be one or 44 people who disagree with your thoughts/your plans/your ideas.

Just the "long run" it's worth it.

Unknown said...

Oh Caroline... I just read your last post and then the comments on this one. I'm so sorry that people post such hurtful things to you, even when they think that they aren't being hurtful. This is a hard time for YOU. This is YOUR blog. If people feel the need to judge, they need to take that elsewhere. I'm so sorry...xo